Chic Uncoupling Through Divorce Mediation In Orange County
What once seemed ruinous and catastrophic is now being uplifted joyously and sometimes even humorously. Divorce has been reframed as “chic” and “having its moment.”
Although divorce is not the outcome that people strive for when getting hitched, the reality is that a surprising number of marriages end in divorce. So while it isn’t necessarily the happy ending we culturally idealize, the reframing of divorce embraces that idea that the end of a significant life chapter is an opportunity to experience a new kind of happiness.
Marriage is traditionally viewed as a milestone of “having it together” in becoming a stable adult. In previous generations, many felt pressured to remain as spouses “til death do us part”—even if the typical day in their married life was messy or miserable. Back then, there seemed to be no real choice out of a doomed marriage: stay and tough it out, or separate but be labeled with the “divorcee” stigma for the rest of your life.
Widely held beliefs have shifted. Many people now feel like they do have a choice. “Divorce” isn’t taboo anymore. It’s a choice that many people feel confident in making for themselves according to their own personal beliefs and morals, commonly shared by others experiencing similar life experiences.
The internet has enabled millions of people to broadcast their ups and downs through life. Online discourse has helped raise awareness around issues of gender equality and mental health, issues that can affect anyone. People are more willing to share what they have learned through hard times, especially when it comes difficult subjects that center around relationship conflict.
Some of the keys in sustaining a healthy relationship, like clear boundaries and open communication, also apply to navigating a divorce with civility and conscientiousness. Family structures that involve single parenting and co-parenting have become more common and socially accepted. Cordiality between exes is even viewed by many as the ultimate display of maturity.
Getting a divorce has never been traditionally easy. It’s a process that can rile up emotions as paperwork and legal fees stack up. To avoid the traditional divorce process, many, including high-net-worth individuals, are seeking divorce mediation. Instead of hiring lawyers and going to court with the possibility of things getting ugly, the couple meets with a divorce mediator to discuss their issues in private. The divorce mediator helps make the process smoother by facilitating discussions between the two people in a way that allows for each person to express themselves openly while the other person listens to what they have to say. The process allows parties to negotiate with one another directly, with each person having their say in finalizing the terms of their divorce settlement.
Mediation helps cool things down a notch, which aligns with the new mindset on relationships and marriage. Why make anything harder than it needs to be? Across the country, especially in Orange County, people are discovering that conscious uncoupling is possible for them. The family law mediation process can help marriages end in harmony rather than hostility.